Why is it that people make us feel guilty for the method of which we give birth to our young?
Why is it so important to deliver a baby vaginally? Will it make you feel more 'woman', more like a mother, is it the fazing into some sort of ra ra sisterhood club? Is it really the safest and healthiest?
Is having a cesarean section really taking 'the easy way out'? Is it really so bad for the baby and momma? Why does no one look at the numbers of babies and moms alive today Only because of advances in medicine that allow a c-section to take place?
When I gave birth to my son, we made the choice to have a c-section at 36 weeks gestation... after discovering I had complete placenta previa and I had been bleeding for 5 weeks straight before surgery - and the OBs and Drs. couldn't locate the cause of the bleeding (scary). During the c-section, the surgeon advised us that our son had his cord wrapped around his neck and foot multiple times... a vaginal delivery would have gone very very badly for Leo.
Even after people knew those terrifying details, they still shoved their objections (and even distain) about the surgery in my face. They made me feel so incredibly guilty/sad for not 'toughing it out' and going the vaginal delivery route.
I see Leo's face and know deep down that I made the best choice for us. He's here and safe, thats all that should matter!
But... a lot of tears were shed by this mommy. A lot of anger and hurt welled up in my heart. I even contemplated hiding my next pregnancy/delivery plan from those family and friends next time so they wouldn't judge me. How sad is that?
No new mom should feel Guilt that they brought a precious life into this world. They should feel only Pride and Happiness for the process and their new baby!
We gave life <3
